L'honnêteté et l'IQ honesty and intelligence (The reproduction of the same article published in 2009)
(原文 第一 稿 曾经 在 2009 年 发表)
A Chinese friend, recently returned to China after living several years in Europe, just by confessing e-mail that it was lost with its savoir-vivre she felt completely at ease in Europe with his honest and frank character, while after his return to China, his honesty and frankness seemed "stupid" among beating fellow perfectly tricks of living in China. His feeling
not foreign to me. I was also often called a "silly" by my close Chinese because of my rectitude and honesty, which still have not forgotten to finish with these words - "a silly drawing of opportunity."
I would say that Chinese society is familiar with this practice: if a person is considered an honest or frank, it does not take a compliment, because the ruling implied in fact "his IQ (Intelligence Quotient) and EQ (Emotion Quotient) are low. " In contrast, those who know "please the left and right", "follow the direction of the wind" and "distinctly propose the menu as the kind of customer", are generally appreciated as "clever" and "intelligent."
The French also like to do the bragging and bluffing: a French expression, "he lies as he breathes," to prove that lying is as natural as having needs air.
However, the French make different assessments of individual qualities from the Chinese, many Chinese feel that "honesty" and "openness" are part of the defects because they do not adapt to the flexibility to act skillfully to concrete circumstances, and therefore they show a "lack of intelligence." In French society, honesty and frankness are generally received as qualities. Moreover, few French are questioning the IQ and EQ of someone who has honest and frank.
is why I often speak in a mocking tone with my close Chinese: do not worry about me, I'm not so "stupid" because en France beaucoup de Français sont autant «bêtes» que moi voire encore plus.
Personnellement, je pense que, quand l'honnêteté et la franchise sont prises pour des défauts, cela veut dire «ne pas vouloir entendre la vérité ni assumer la réalité ». Résultat: on ne peut que se tromper soi-même à la fois tromper les autres.
a living in Europe for many years, recently returned to China to settle the girl wrote that she felt very much in terms of personal behavior lost to regret it: In Europe, her personality completely honest and straightforward to handle it; and returned to China after the Chinese compatriots in between well versed in ways of the world, her frank and sincere but often little more than "silly."
that some of her feelings, I do not feel strange. I have also because of solid, straightforward character, are often surrounded by friends and family make fun of the Chinese as "silly girl" and finally also assured me "stupid stupid people own good fortune."
in Chinese society, the existence of such an atmosphere: if a person was called "solid," or "candid" comments, then certainly not a compliment meaning, in fact, the subtext is "wise man foolish enough , IQ, low EQ. " Those who are good at "best of both worlds," "both ways" know "under the Caidie Man" who is often hailed as "Will come to thing," the smart.
French people love boast boast: for example, the French had "lied like breathing," was used to illustrate the lie as naturally as breathing air.
However, the French and the Chinese people still have personal evaluation of the quality differences: in the eyes of many Chinese people, "honest and straightforward" is no air to breathe, do not understand a drawback resourceful, so "honest and straightforward" and often "No Cong That "equated with the column; in French society," honest and straightforward "is usually seen as advantages, and not because a person" honest and straightforward "and make their" low low IQ EQ "comment.
so I often ridicule to friends and family of domestic, said: Do not worry about me, I was not in France, "silly" because a lot of French people like me "stupid" or even more than I do "silly."
in my opinion, the honesty and frankness as a shortcoming, by inference, not like to hear the truth do not want to face the reality, the result can only be fooling themselves.